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Oral stimulation or oral sex is the stimulation of genital area performs by a partner using the mouth and tongue. Women love oral sex as much as men do because it enhances pleasure and arousal of both partners performing and receiving.
Most men find oral sex to be exciting maybe because of the idea of a woman going down on him and he get to watch while she is performing or maybe the idea of his penis going inside of her mouth and climaxing is what turn him on and get him aroused. Women also find oral sex to be exciting maybe because of the idea of a man going down on her or maybe the idea that she is more likely to reach orgasm from oral sex.
Oral sex is not for everyone as some people are not comfortable with the idea and chose not to participate. Older men who have difficulty achieving erection prefer oral stimulation to help him achieve his slow erection and orgasm. Many lesbian women preferred oral sex more than vaginal penetration during sexual activity. Many gay men also prefer oral sex more than anal intercourse during sexual activity.
For those that love oral sex some prefer to receive only so they can focus on the pleasure of receiving other prefer to perform only so they can enjoy the process of pleasing their partner and yet other prefer to perform and receive together so that both partners can enjoy the pleasure of receiving and pleasing each other at the same time. Performing oral sex simultaneously is also referred to as “69” because of the positions of the body during this type of sexual activity that resemble this number.
Performing Oral Stimulation on Her
Performing oral sex on women is referred to cunnilingus and it involves stimulating the women’s clitoris, vagina opening, labia minora, labia majora, and vulva. The best way to begin oral sex is to get her in the mood with soft kissing on the neck, shoulder and mouth and slowly transition by going down on her and kissing her inner thigh and other part of her body that turns her on.
When she is really excited you can transition to kissing her genitals softly and use your tongue to stimulate the area around the clitoris. You can use your fingers to open up the labia and use your tongue to stimulate the labia on either side or you can thrust your tongue back-and-forth into the vaginal opening in a slow steady pace. When you are done with teasing and pleasing her you can now work on her clitoris moving your tongue over the hood in circular motion, side-to-side motion, up-and-down motion, or back-and-forth motion.
Some prefer direct stimulation to enhance pleasure and arousal and you can do this by using your fingers to pull back the hood and use your tongue to stimulate the clitoris directly. Some prefer oral stimulation along with vaginal stimulation and you can do this by inserting one or two fingers into the vagina in thrusting back-and-forth motion while you stimulate the clitoris with your tongue.
You can also suck on her clitoris and labia minora as some women also enjoy this type of feelings. Take your time to smell and taste her while performing oral sex because the smell and taste she produces can be very erotic for some people. According to Masters and Johnson research many females who are capable of achieving regular orgasm are also capable of achieving multiple orgasms within a short period of time from oral stimulation of the clitoris.
Performing Oral Stimulation on Him
Performing oral sex on men is referred to fellatio and it involves stimulating the men’s penis and testicles. You can begin by kissing him softly on the neck and mouth to get him turn on and gently rub his penis and testicles with your hand. Once you get him in the mood go down on him slowly and kiss his inner thigh to tease him and get him aroused.
While teasing him use your tongue to lick his inner thigh slowly upward and transition to licking his testicles and penis shaft. You can lick around the glans and at the tip of the penis softly or you can slide your mouth over the penis in up-and-down motions. Just be cautious when sliding your mouth over the penis because if you take in more than you can handle you will gag.
You can also use your hand to stroke the shaft in up-and-down motions while sliding your mouth over the glans and be careful if you have sharp teeth as you do not want to scrape his penis. Some men with foreskin are more sensitive may prefer indirect stimulation of the glans and you can do this by performing oral sex over the foreskin. Other may prefer direct stimulation and you can do this by pulling back the foreskin with your fingers and use your mouth or tongue to stimulate the glans directly.
Some men enjoy testicle stimulation with oral sex and you can do this by licking the testicles, cupping the testicles in your hand, or enclosing the testicles in your mouth. Some prefer oral stimulation along with anal stimulation and you can do this by inserting one or two fingers into the anus and moving very slowly in thrusting back-and-forth motion while you stimulate the glans with your mouth or tongue.
You can also suck on the glans as some men enjoy this type of feelings. Take your time to taste him because the droplet of fluids that appears at the tip of penis during oral sex can be very erotic for some people. Men are not capable of achieving multiple orgasms within a short period of time because of refractory period and during this period men are not capable of achieving another orgasm with further oral stimulation.
To Swallow or Not To Swallow
During oral sex some couples prefers ejaculation into the mouth and finds this process to be very exciting. For couples who prefer to ejaculate into the mouth can decide whether or not to swallow the ejaculation. Normally it is safe to swallow ejaculation if both partners are free from virus however if one partner is infected with HIV virus this can increase the risk of transmitting the virus through broken skin or bleeding gums in the mouth where the virus can transmit into the blood stream and spread the infection.
If you are comfortable with your partner ejaculating into your mouth but don’t like the idea of swallowing you can spit it out later into the sink. You need to communicate with him before hand as to what you like or dislike so that both of you can accommodate one another during oral sex.
If you are not comfortable with your partner ejaculating into your mouth you can switch to sexual intercourse before he ejaculate or he can ejaculate over your breast or different part of your body. You can experiment with so many different ideas and find the one that you are most comfortable with.
Some people consider oral sex to be dirty
because the genitals are close to the anus. If your partner does not
have good hygiene you need to communicate with him if you want to enjoy
performing as much as he wants to enjoy receiving. Maintaining good
genitals hygiene is simple and easy where you or your partner can wash
his genitals with soap and water during shower to get rid of any bad
odor. Research indicates that people of all educational level today are
more likely to experience oral sex.
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